I got the most beautiful, lovely, heart felt Christmas letter from my son Carter Jennings Dennis. I won’t lie, I cried when he gave it to me. He is so appreciative of things that Mom’s “just do” for their children. It’s not a favor or a gift, it’s my job, it’s love. Even though he expressed appreciation for the things I do on a regular basis, he also expressed that he knows how much he is loved. He feels it. The greatest Christmas gift I received..
This is ironic. My two other boys have said the same thing within a week’s time. This is really important. Unsolicited emotions from your boys are rare. When it happens, there is no greater happiness!
Everyday, not just Christmas or Birthday’s let them know how much you love them, SHOW them, I promise they will remember. It gives them an inner confidence, and it shows in everything they do.
Embrey (my purple heart hero) is so smart, he radiates confidence. He can walk into a room, introduce himself to everyone, shake their hand look them in the eye and carry on intelligent conversations with large groups of people. He is a proven leader, and has always been capable of the way he is today. He takes true pride in his work, and this shows with his rapid advancement in his job. THIS IS A TRUE GIFT. Most people cannot do this!
Cody shows empathy for others and would give the shirt off his back for the under dog. Cody is a hard worker, but a dreamer. (Who does this remind me of? Hummm…) He has BIG dreams, and he puts these visions into the things he does. He is a wild card. He makes mistakes, but it doesn’t really matter considering his huge comebacks. This can be a power COMBO with some guidance, and especially when he leads with his heart. If this doesn’t sell him his precious dimples and smile will! My Cody is going to be a STAR…just give him some time and the world will see! He is already a star to me! (This rhyming is due to the MANY Dr. Seuss books I have read aloud)
Carter – LOVE, pure love. True joy. Smart, funny, athletic and ambitious! He really cares about others, and makes it a habit to give back. It doesn’t matter if I am watching him play soccer, shopping – picking out what HE likes and what makes him feel good about himself. He will take out the trash, unload the dishwasher, carry in all the groceries; help put them away, feed the dogs, and clean his room (when asked!). He takes great pride in his appearance, is timely for school, overcomes obstacles in school and makes good grades. He hunts, fishes, golfs, and embraces his step-father. And loves his weekends with his Dad! He embraces his Brothers, well, most of them, and loves to joke! The Christmas letter was beautiful, touching, appreciative, kind and a genuine act of kindness. This was all I wanted for Christmas. My husband told me not to expect it because boys are not good at these things. They are reluctant to show emotion. I’m sure it wasn’t the most favorite thing he wanted to do. He did it because he knew how much it would mean to me.
I will admit that Carter being my last born, and my first born came into my world at 19 years old, that my parenting skills are much improved and I am confident in a way I probably wasn’t with the first two. This has made me feel guilty at times that I wasn’t perfect. I’m a bit OCD anyway. Despite this, hearing from my boys that they never worry about it because they know how much I love them, and they have felt loved.
I’m a bit strict, I will check grades, I will make sure they are doing as they are supposed to, I will make sure they use good manners, open doors for women, address adults appropriately and use respect. I may not be perfect, I have made mistakes – some big ones, but I am accountable for them. I think it’s OK to let your kids know your not perfect and make mistakes. It is a life lesson. Besides, what kid wants to open to the parent that they think is perfect?
Most importantly, to be me, I always demand the two hand hug. Even boys need affection. Everyone does.
SIDE NOTE – The book is forever stalled over Chapter 7 do to medical drama. I may be looking at a re-write. I seem to be doing that allot. I guess practice makes perfect. An Author does not a writer make, but apparently the skill is worth practicing! Either way it will get done, extra work is a necessity for a book not to end up in the $1.00 bin. Right?
– Mask of the Doctor’s Wife