I’ve decided that in some of these blogs I’m going to set the mood with a little music! Everyone feels better once having their groove on, and it will lessen the blow of this blog. BTW, I have actually done this so that’s why I find this one hysterical!
I SO do THIS! Every girl should! Music lifts your soul!
Girl code can be different for different types of women. So, in the spirit of true honesty and reflection, I am going to tell you how it is. I understand many may disagree. I understand that some may think my point of view is biased. If you are truly honest with yourself, you will know what category you fit into, so own it and maybe take some action if you can.
The confident, pretty girl, with a good heart –
You’re the girl that has either been converted, or it you were very lucky – You were just born that way. You’re the type of girl that is not intimidated if another girl has a better car, better job, better husband, better hair…..you name it! You are the girls champion, cheerleader, good listener, and best of all you have a great heart! You won’t tell everyone’s secrets, you won’t make another feel stupid even if she isn’t as smart as you. If you screw up – you say you’re sorry with empathy and you mean it! If someone makes a mistake against you, and they apologise – all is forgiven. You are the real deal.
You don’t take it to heart when the haters attack. You’ve worked hard for your job, money, great body, or whatever it is! It doesn’t mean you won’t bleed, it doesn’t mean some things said don’t sting, it just means you are able to rise above it. You’re not a shrinking violet, and you will speak your mind, but you will try to always do it in the right way.
The self-righteous girl –
This is your know it all! She can be a good friend, but she will judge you, and if given a pedestal to speak she will tell others their issues too! She wants to be that cool girl, she may even look the part, but BEWARE you are only her friend when she has something to gain. The second your in need – she’s out! She cares about number one only! It is okay to think about number one first, that’s normal. However the self-righteous girl not only thinks of herself first, she believes she is better than the rest of the pack, and if the wind blows she’s off in another direction.
The Drama girl –
Her life is filled with drama, some created by herself, some not. She thrives on drama to the point that she actually injures herself and anyone else she can take down with her! Keep this one at arms length. You don’t know the burning force behind the drama and rapidly changing friends. Perhaps it is an age thing or it is situational. Offer this girl an ear. If she speaks only of other people you know and their business, pay the check and get it out! She will be speaking this way about you next. If she speaks of hard times, illness or personal struggle don’t label her as the DRAMA QUEEN, it could be she just really needs someone to listen and to give a crap about her. The situational drama girl can turn into the confident pretty girl with the right tools. Don’t befriend her immediately, keep her at arms length and see how it works out. You will either be surprised, or she will be talking the same trash a year later, in which case, exit stage left.
The Victim –
Nothing is EVER her fault. She is exhausting to be around. She would not utter the words I’m sorry, I take responsibility, in this lifetime – EVER! The world has done her wrong and everyone must run to her rescue every time something goes wrong or you will be considered thoughtless and inconsiderate. She does not work or have career ambition. She constantly has money problems and will use her sad story to extort money from you. Stay away from this one. Victims don’t change unless they are forced too. The hand out stops, and people are just plain tired of hearing their is nothing she can do to better her situation.
The Guy’s girl –
I have more or less changed my mind recently on this girl. I used to think, if she doesn’t have any close girlfriends and if she adapts to whatever the guys do easier than the girls, RUN! This usually means she cannot be trusted with your friendship, your husband, your dog – you name it. I still basically feel the same with some conditions. If this is the girl that only hangs out with the guys, does not know herself so she adapts herself to whatever he’s doing, it could be because she has been really burnt in the past by women and has had a friend or two that are all about the drama and coupled with a possible childhood tragedy, guys are just easier. They won’t make you talk about it, they won’t need to know how your feeling, they will just hang out. They will all try and get into your pants as well, but most guys girl’s already have the guy, and want to keep their guy friends so they won’t sleep with them. Try and be a good friend to this girl. Chances are she does need a female friend, she just needs to trust you first.
I hope this helps the girl who needs the girlfriends guide to figuring out girl relationships!
– The Mask of the Doctors Wife!