Don’t be the sensitive girl, be the Bitch…Here’s why – For my precious Daughter in law that I couldn’t LOVE more if I tried!

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Below are the definitions, Thank you Mr. Webster!

I have learned it is better to be a BITCH in this life and say NO to everyone and anything.  It seems this is where we are headed as a society anyway.  Look out for number one, make no real connections, and save all your cash for YOUR rainy day and screw helping out your fellow-man.  This really makes life more tolerable because then you can build up a tolerance towards empathy, and sympathy towards anyone!  That way you NEVER have to hear the second part of the vocabulary lesson which is, “You’re too sensitive”.   You won’t run into this problem because you never really gave a crap in the first place, and can just move on with your day!

The Bitch does not have to worry about the problems of others, she cares for no one but herself.  The Bitch does not have to give back to society or charity because what have those people ever done for her?  The Bitch gets to point out all the problems with the world, discuss politics, (She doesn’t have to be accurate bc she isn’t a contributing member of society anyway) and any of her other problems?  Easy.  It is ALWAYS someone else’s fault!  What a great life.

Now, the sensitive girl….Whoa….This girl has problems.  She actually cares about the world around her.  She actually takes self-improvement to heart because she wants to be a better person!  She will do self inventory and attempt to right her wrongs.  She will help you with your charity event, give money, and be present and accounted for.  The really bad part about the sensitive girl is if you hurt her, lie to her, manipulate her – she bleeds.  She really takes it hard which is a shame because the Bitch won’t care.  In fact, the Bitch will say it’s all her fault for expecting people to be kind, generous, and that she just has too high expectations.  She is just “TOO sensitive”!  She didn’t need to become “involved” in the first place, so she brought it all on herself.

If you are actually buying any of this, I have some really great land for sale.  I know nobody’s perfect, and I do understand that even people with the greatest intentions make mistakes.  We are all human.  Why can’t we just own it?   You can keep your back story, and tell it the way you want it, but in moving forward isn’t it better to know you worked hard at something?  Isn’t it better to know you really cared for someone?  I tend to believe that I would rather be the girl who is too sensitive any day!  This does not mean I have to allow people to walk all over me, and I will get to a point that I will cut loose the Crazy and the Toxic…however…This also means that I get to tell people who are full of crap – have a nice day, and walk away knowing I gave it my all.  So, bye to the Bitch; sensitive girl just played her last hand and the “handouts” are OVER.  Find someone else to abuse because you are just SO COOL that you can.  For awhile anyway, the Bitch almost always gets caught! 🙂

XOXO,

Mask of the Doctor’s wife…..

Define “Sensitive” –

11 sensitive

adjective sen·si·tive \ˈsen(t)-sə-tiv, ˈsen(t)s-təv\

: easily upset by the things that people think or say about you

: likely to cause people to become upset

: aware of and understanding the feelings of other people

Credit to  – “Sensitive.” Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 27 July 2015. < http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sensitive >.

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something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant

Also credit to Merriam-Webster

Take back your power…Do pass GO, collect your money!

Sexy, Smart Woman....
Sexy, Smart Woman….

Hello Friends!

I highly recommend using caution while reading this blog!  If you are a sexy, confident woman like the one above – you are going to love it!

I have completed a few of my new courses and the the healing part of my therapy.  Wow, it feels so good!  Great to be in control of my mind, body, and spirit!  Great to feel the love of EIGHT very close girlfriends (you know how you are) and a loving husband who has tolerated so much during this progress.  Great news, Chapter nine is officially approved, and I am working on a deal with Kindle as we speak.

Some advice for taking on such a journey!  ( kids, go to bed)

1.  Fuck anyone who says you can’t do it.  You can!  It will become obvious soon and they will feel like idiots (probably already are) for doubting you!

2.  I am a very kind, generous person that gives to other freely, some people say they are, but ask them what charity, or their close family, what matters the most have they have either donated their time or money to, and I would guess the answer is zero!  We all have these family members or friends that we have given to time and time again.  They do not value it!  The buck stops here.  If they owe you money?  Easy, take out a warrant in debt.  These are not charity cases, they have the ability to pay, you are just on the bottom of their list!  Take back YOUR power and serve that warrant to their employer, they know it’s coming, and you know you are not okay with the way it was to be handled!  Especially if they are not invested in a building a REAL relationship with you.  They are users and need to learn the hard facts of life.  The time for being the doormat is OVER.

3.  You are a good person!  You may have made 100 mistakes in the past, but you strive for self improvement everyday.  STOP trying to prove anything to anyone.  Those that really love you will go out of their way to show it!  Those that don’t prove they need the wake up call, and it is up to you to give it to them!  Bounced checks?  Unpaid loans, broken promises….They do not care about you, they are not interested in real healing, they think of number one and it’s about time you did too.

4.  In my case of abuse and neglect.  Forgive those that hide behind their excuses.  Just forgive them and move on.  Practice doing what you say and saying what you mean,  This is so important and it separates the bullshitters from the doers!  The pain will be a constant battle, but one that can be won given the right tools in your toolbox.  The Gaslighting of them turning around the story to make you the bad guy is OVER.

5.  People who like to revise HISTORY, you are okay in your own skin.  No anxiety or panic attacks here.  Let them tell their side, chances are you were a mere child (in my case) so let them say what they will.  You are not everyone’s cup of tea, and that is okay.  Who is?  Do you like you?  That’s all that matters and you gave up trying to control others a long time ago.  Ever heard the phrase, ” win some, lose some?”  Be okay with it!  you will sleep very well at night!  I know, I do!

6.  Finally, be that gorgeous blonde, brunette, or whatever you are.  There is no one else like you, nor will there ever be.  Love that about yourself.  That is truly the key to every worthwhile relationship!  Eight close girlfriends is okay, a wonderful husband who always has your back even better, three beautiful children that need you to teach life’s lessons are the icing on the cake.

ST

aka…..The Mask of the Doctor’s Wife