All that glitters is not gold….

Everlasting poem of our time!
JRR Tolkien had it right in the 50’s and it stands true TODAY. 

 
Credit to Mr. Tolkien…..

Thank you for still being the voice of our time.

Many of the stories told in The Lord of the rings, can be valuable in relationships, love, loyalty, and fighting for what you truly believe in!  Think about it.

Xoxo, Mask of the Doctors wife

The youngest child…

This is an article meant to entertain parents who still have their youngest in the nest.  Explanation will be given as to why we behave the way we do over the youngest. #youngestchild

1.  This is your last shot.  It doesn’t matter if the others all have PHD’s by now, the youngest will still have pressure on them to be the best. #parentpressures

2.  You are experienced parents now.  You know all the tricks of the trade and are determined to give it your best so that last one can survive in this world, yet you have more of a sense of humor about it. #abletospotbullshit

3.  The youngest child, knowing that there will be no more is the hardest to discipline.  You have such a different love for this baby that despite wanting to be strict, you find yourself letting go of the small things because he is your last and you secretly your golden child. #yourgreatestlove

4.  The youngest child has learned from his older siblings and he is a charmer!  He will not only know all the tricks, but has learned how to improve upon them to pull at your heart strings!   You are tired of fighting so you may let the little things slide because of your overwhelming love for him and he is your last!

5.  This child has the benefit of things that the others did not.  As you have grown as a parent you have also grown in your career, and will likely have more financial resources at your disposal.  This is good and bad.  Your youngest likely has less responsibility around the house but still has more perks due to your success!  He is given more than his older siblings because it is easier to parent with help of gadgets and goodies to use as colleteral to be taken away if he doesn’t behave! #bribery

6.  For the Mother – This is your last and only baby.  He will always be no matter what happens your heart will melt with his smile and his happiness.  Now that you have more to give, you will really want to give it all! #mothersproblems

For several reasons you should NOT give in to these feelings and your fear of empty nest syndrome! Your job is not done yet.  In fact it is never fully done with any of your children.  You are the example.  Remain strong, keep the LOVE going because in their travels they will still and always need you.  Be that rock for all of them, be that safe place that they can always cuddle up to.

The youngest child has a place in a Mother’s heart that nothing else can quite fill.  He represents something that is so fabulous, you as a parent were the best YOU.  It’s very hard to let that kind of love go.  The good news is, it is never truly lost, and you will always be important to him as he is to you.  As always, he will play his hand with your emotions, and you will know it’s happening but allow it anyway.  After all, true love is patient, kind, and heart breaking.

Youngest children – try to remember – you are the heart and love that keeps the family going!  Don’t abuse this power.  Honor thy Father and thy

 Mother.  You mean more to them than words can ever express. #honorthyfatherandtheymother

Thinking of Carter.  Xoxo, the Mask of the Doctors Wife

Let’s talk about it!

I am humbly coming before you to talk about a taboo subject.

TEEN/YOUNG ADULT SUICIDE

This may appear as if  I have had “mudd on my face”.  On this very blog I have discussed the short cut of suicide, and how I felt it was selfish.  Wow.  Am I the biggest hypercritical person to head this conversation.  I thought people who did this were selfish, and wanted an easy way out without thinking about the loved ones left behind.

I was wrong.  I have a survivor mentality that could not understand giving up life due to my personal struggles, and my ability to overcome.  I never really understood people with active depression.  I haven’t.  I have always had someone to lift me up, someone to love me without judgement, someone who would stop whatever they were doing to simply LOVE me through it.  Not everyone is so lucky.  Not everyone has such inner strength.  I am now ready to admit, not everyone, even with the best support can still overcome adversity the way I did.  The only reason I can give is my children.  I had to be a Mother, I had to take care of them.  Not everyone is so lucky.

So, let’s talk.  Let’s have the conversation.  One of my best friends, recorded this –http://www.annemoss.com/2016/02/22/suicide-the-silent-serial-killer/

It seems to be the most humbling experience of my life.  I guess I have become so immune knowing medicine would eventually intervene?  It is almost impossible to be neutral because I was thinking we had a great healthcare system!  Boy was I wrong.   Did you know that if you go to the ER in a suicidal state a social worker will decide if you are serious or not?  They have to display a detailed plan and several other things to be taken seriously.  If they can’t?  Guess what they are discharged with a reccomendation to follow up with a psychologist.  Any guess how long that will take?  Usually three to four weeks.

Our system is broken, and it is up to us to fix it!  Let’s please all take a moment to “put our thinking caps on” and help put a stop to this needless loss of life.

-I was definitely wearing the mask!   So, bravely, it is off – Stephanie Carter Taylor

Re-writing, revising, and changes to come!

Just a FYI, I am correcting the horrific mistakes in spelling and grammar because I can no longer stand it!  Practice makes perfect, and although I am FAR from perfect.  All the writing (and a ton of re-writing) that I have been forced to do – it’s crazy, I have actually learned a thing or two.  Who would have thought this was possible from the girl with the ghost writer?  It’s shocked the crap out of me!  Maybe there is hope of finishing this thing yet! 😄

100 Inspirational Pieces Of Advice To Help Your Career, Your Living, And Your Sanity

Embrace change. You need to get comfortable with this simple idea: The only thing constant is change. Instead of fearing it, embrace it.

Source: 100 Inspirational Pieces Of Advice To Help Your Career, Your Living, And Your Sanity

The fresh Princess of Salisburyfare…Speaks to her youngest son, the Prince of Fashionfare…

Parent’s Just Don’t Understand  (<–Click Here)

 

I guess I am just one of the parent’s that just doesn’t understand….Boys hit sixteen and all of the sudden that little boy who was always by your side is hiding on the other side of the mall terrified that he may be seen with Mom.  However, my son MUST have the latest in fashion!  I am apparently just supposed to hand my credit card over and say, “My credit limit is $15,00.00, now go get whatever you want?”  What Mother in her right mind does this?  So, we have settled out of court with on-line shopping, and he sends me the link of everything it is acceptable to buy.  Not the greatest compromise for me!  I miss the experience of going with him and waiting outside the dressing room while he throws things at me stating YES or NO!  Okay, so maybe I really don’t miss it that much, but I enjoyed our time together.

This gradual coming of age as all teenage boys do, makes a Mom who is so desperate to hold on to that little boy cry tears of separation!  What happened?  It seems only yesterday he was following me into the bathroom and talking to me while I was drying my hair, now he is constantly in his room and I am no longer allowed to say certain words or phrases like, “Mom has game”.  You know what I am sayin?  He looks at me as if I had three heads and says, “Mom – don’t use slang!”  Why the heck not?  Who crowned him King of slang!  I still have it “all going on”…I am referring to the half bag of chocolate covered peanuts I just ate, but he just doesn’t understand me!  So basically I don’t understand him, and he would rather die than to even try to understand me.  What’s a Mom to do?  Embarrass that little brat!  So, here is my music video an oldie but a goodie…so buckle up, and understand this!

Rules You Must Live By!  (<–Click Here)

Because…Because…Because…I said so!  I’m the Mom that is why.  You will Thank me for this when your grown.  Well, maybe you won’t actually thank me but you will appreciate not becoming homeless!

XOXO to Carter, LOVE – MOM (Yes, I hope this is highly embarrassing)

 

 

 

 

 

 

All Of The Times You’ll Reinvent Yourself In Your Twenties

Heck yes Heidi! Five, six, and seven are GOLD girlfriend! Potentially, not in that order for me…but still 100% TRUE!

I’m not saying we should reinvent the wheel, at some age we all know what our gifts are and figure out how to use them so we are the happiest at what we do!

I also recommend diversify, diversify, diversify – You never know where the biggest payoff is, and the word payoff may have an entirely different meaning in your forties!

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