The youngest child…

This is an article meant to entertain parents who still have their youngest in the nest.  Explanation will be given as to why we behave the way we do over the youngest. #youngestchild

1.  This is your last shot.  It doesn’t matter if the others all have PHD’s by now, the youngest will still have pressure on them to be the best. #parentpressures

2.  You are experienced parents now.  You know all the tricks of the trade and are determined to give it your best so that last one can survive in this world, yet you have more of a sense of humor about it. #abletospotbullshit

3.  The youngest child, knowing that there will be no more is the hardest to discipline.  You have such a different love for this baby that despite wanting to be strict, you find yourself letting go of the small things because he is your last and you secretly your golden child. #yourgreatestlove

4.  The youngest child has learned from his older siblings and he is a charmer!  He will not only know all the tricks, but has learned how to improve upon them to pull at your heart strings!   You are tired of fighting so you may let the little things slide because of your overwhelming love for him and he is your last!

5.  This child has the benefit of things that the others did not.  As you have grown as a parent you have also grown in your career, and will likely have more financial resources at your disposal.  This is good and bad.  Your youngest likely has less responsibility around the house but still has more perks due to your success!  He is given more than his older siblings because it is easier to parent with help of gadgets and goodies to use as colleteral to be taken away if he doesn’t behave! #bribery

6.  For the Mother – This is your last and only baby.  He will always be no matter what happens your heart will melt with his smile and his happiness.  Now that you have more to give, you will really want to give it all! #mothersproblems

For several reasons you should NOT give in to these feelings and your fear of empty nest syndrome! Your job is not done yet.  In fact it is never fully done with any of your children.  You are the example.  Remain strong, keep the LOVE going because in their travels they will still and always need you.  Be that rock for all of them, be that safe place that they can always cuddle up to.

The youngest child has a place in a Mother’s heart that nothing else can quite fill.  He represents something that is so fabulous, you as a parent were the best YOU.  It’s very hard to let that kind of love go.  The good news is, it is never truly lost, and you will always be important to him as he is to you.  As always, he will play his hand with your emotions, and you will know it’s happening but allow it anyway.  After all, true love is patient, kind, and heart breaking.

Youngest children – try to remember – you are the heart and love that keeps the family going!  Don’t abuse this power.  Honor thy Father and thy

 Mother.  You mean more to them than words can ever express. #honorthyfatherandtheymother

Thinking of Carter.  Xoxo, the Mask of the Doctors Wife

Let’s talk about it!

I am humbly coming before you to talk about a taboo subject.

TEEN/YOUNG ADULT SUICIDE

This may appear as if  I have had “mudd on my face”.  On this very blog I have discussed the short cut of suicide, and how I felt it was selfish.  Wow.  Am I the biggest hypercritical person to head this conversation.  I thought people who did this were selfish, and wanted an easy way out without thinking about the loved ones left behind.

I was wrong.  I have a survivor mentality that could not understand giving up life due to my personal struggles, and my ability to overcome.  I never really understood people with active depression.  I haven’t.  I have always had someone to lift me up, someone to love me without judgement, someone who would stop whatever they were doing to simply LOVE me through it.  Not everyone is so lucky.  Not everyone has such inner strength.  I am now ready to admit, not everyone, even with the best support can still overcome adversity the way I did.  The only reason I can give is my children.  I had to be a Mother, I had to take care of them.  Not everyone is so lucky.

So, let’s talk.  Let’s have the conversation.  One of my best friends, recorded this –http://www.annemoss.com/2016/02/22/suicide-the-silent-serial-killer/

It seems to be the most humbling experience of my life.  I guess I have become so immune knowing medicine would eventually intervene?  It is almost impossible to be neutral because I was thinking we had a great healthcare system!  Boy was I wrong.   Did you know that if you go to the ER in a suicidal state a social worker will decide if you are serious or not?  They have to display a detailed plan and several other things to be taken seriously.  If they can’t?  Guess what they are discharged with a reccomendation to follow up with a psychologist.  Any guess how long that will take?  Usually three to four weeks.

Our system is broken, and it is up to us to fix it!  Let’s please all take a moment to “put our thinking caps on” and help put a stop to this needless loss of life.

-I was definitely wearing the mask!   So, bravely, it is off – Stephanie Carter Taylor

Re-writing, revising, and changes to come!

Just a FYI, I am correcting the horrific mistakes in spelling and grammar because I can no longer stand it!  Practice makes perfect, and although I am FAR from perfect.  All the writing (and a ton of re-writing) that I have been forced to do – it’s crazy, I have actually learned a thing or two.  Who would have thought this was possible from the girl with the ghost writer?  It’s shocked the crap out of me!  Maybe there is hope of finishing this thing yet! 😄

What is this LENT my BFF speaks of?

Okay.  So, I had already decided I liked the Catholic religion!  For ALL the right reasons!  Free counseling for one.  The confessional, would save me thousands in therapy!  (No offense Dr. S) I love to give him $25.00 per week to be able to unload my conscience!  However being a Catholic – WOW!  You get to unload and be forgiven with some Hail Mary’s!  How can this be?  Now I am really interested!

The next great thing that Catholics get to do is drink WINE!  In fact, you can go to church and still get your buzz on.  Now, I am sold!  Considering converting from my Southern Baptist background and baptism based on this solely!   It does all seem to be too good to be true.  Where is the catch?

LENT –

Starts 40 days from Ash Wednesday.  A time of thoughtfulness, reflecting, and giving up something that you desire for this amount of time in order to experience the suffering of Jesus Christ.

So, okay this isn’t so bad, I mean who doesn’t need a little reflection and fasting?  It reminds me of a good detox, and most times this is a good thing because you usually loose a few pounds and your skin and hair is very brilliant and shiny.  So, what to give up?  Hummm…. I could give up that forth work out of the week!  I could give up fish, I mean look at all those cars with fish on them?  Highly appropriate I think!  Then the WORST thing happened.

My BFF, my sounding board, my female partner in crime decides to give up Proseco?  How can this be? I mean we are women now having graduated from White Zinfindal (gross, I know – this was our twenties).  We then moved on to Chardonnay (yuck again, too oaky for us now), then we became real high society savvy women and went with Pinot Grigio.  Nothing is bad about the right Pinot, you will just have an achy belly if you drink too much of it.  However, Proseco is AWESOME!  It is like the forbidden dry soft drink with a buzz, minus the bad Diet Coke chemicals!  Finally, the perfect drink!  And now it is lost for 44 days.  What to do?

What exactly are the hard core rules of this LENT?  Like if you don’t buy it and bring it home or order it out at a restaurant than that should be enough?  Am I right?  If your BFF shows up with it at your door, well, than I think God would consider it rude not to join your girlfriend.  Is this really cheating?  I think not!  This is what we would consider a loop hole.

I mean how are you supposed to survive with a teenager still at home without the Proseco?  It just seems mean.  God isn’t mean, he is kind, he loves you, and he forgives you.  Am I right?  Can’t I just make a donation or something?

Well I will tell you three things for sure –

  1. I haven’t really decided given this news if I will become Catholic  but congrats to those that are.
  2. Surviving without the BFF and Proseco, will lead to other bad habits for diversion like SHOPPING!  This would be an expensive 44 days for me.
  3. I like my spiritual side, and it gives me plenty of comfort, especially while trying to remain sane and polishing off the last teenager at home!  As women of this century we need all the help we can get!

Will I sabatoge my BFF for selfish reasons?  NO, well maybe if it was absolutely necessary, but thinking of excuses requires a certain savvy I just haven’t acquired yet.  Okay, well maybe I have accomplished this but she is your girlfriend and not a guy.  #girlcode. #girlfriend guilt.  It’s not worth it.  So, with a heavy heart I raise my glass to my friend and say, ” You Go Girl, I support you, and I look forward to seeing you in 44 days”!

Until next time the Mask of the Doctors wife is still considering religion.  Catholics have a happy and introspective lent, but please do it quickly so I can get my girl back!

-ST

The fresh Princess of Salisburyfare…Speaks to her youngest son, the Prince of Fashionfare…

Parent’s Just Don’t Understand  (<–Click Here)

 

I guess I am just one of the parent’s that just doesn’t understand….Boys hit sixteen and all of the sudden that little boy who was always by your side is hiding on the other side of the mall terrified that he may be seen with Mom.  However, my son MUST have the latest in fashion!  I am apparently just supposed to hand my credit card over and say, “My credit limit is $15,00.00, now go get whatever you want?”  What Mother in her right mind does this?  So, we have settled out of court with on-line shopping, and he sends me the link of everything it is acceptable to buy.  Not the greatest compromise for me!  I miss the experience of going with him and waiting outside the dressing room while he throws things at me stating YES or NO!  Okay, so maybe I really don’t miss it that much, but I enjoyed our time together.

This gradual coming of age as all teenage boys do, makes a Mom who is so desperate to hold on to that little boy cry tears of separation!  What happened?  It seems only yesterday he was following me into the bathroom and talking to me while I was drying my hair, now he is constantly in his room and I am no longer allowed to say certain words or phrases like, “Mom has game”.  You know what I am sayin?  He looks at me as if I had three heads and says, “Mom – don’t use slang!”  Why the heck not?  Who crowned him King of slang!  I still have it “all going on”…I am referring to the half bag of chocolate covered peanuts I just ate, but he just doesn’t understand me!  So basically I don’t understand him, and he would rather die than to even try to understand me.  What’s a Mom to do?  Embarrass that little brat!  So, here is my music video an oldie but a goodie…so buckle up, and understand this!

Rules You Must Live By!  (<–Click Here)

Because…Because…Because…I said so!  I’m the Mom that is why.  You will Thank me for this when your grown.  Well, maybe you won’t actually thank me but you will appreciate not becoming homeless!

XOXO to Carter, LOVE – MOM (Yes, I hope this is highly embarrassing)